Anger is a common emotion and can be expressed in many ways, from mild frustration to extreme rage. There may be real causes for anger, and genuine (and perceived) injustices in daily life that may make us all feel angry. If expressed positively, anger can be healthy and motivating but it is more often a negative and divisive emotion.
It’s important that we learn how to recognise anger in ourselves and others, and look at ways we can manage these feelings. If someone you know is struggling to control their anger, you might find it helpful to work through some of the steps below with them.
The first step to addressing anger is to realise that it is often not the primary emotion. Other feelings such as stress, guilt, fear, frustration, depression, or powerlessness can manifest as anger.
Another important step in managing anger, is to question and address anger inducing thought patterns such as:
If the above thought patterns are manifesting in anger, then it might be helpful to explore ways to manage that anger. Tips to control anger could include:
Learning to control anger is a challenge for everyone at times. If someone’s anger seems out of control, or is at risk of escalating and hurting them or those around them, then you should consider seeking further help.
If you need advice on how best to help someone you care about, call our Step Together helpline workers on 1800 875 204, 9am to 5pm, Monday to Friday.